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Hum log Dosti ko Pyaar aur Pyaar ko dosti ka naam dete hain, Lekin main aaj tak nahi samajh paya ke mujhe pyaar huya hai ya dosti coz I feel dosti ho ya pyaar dono hi ek ehsaas hai jo hum kisi aise insaan ke liye apne mann mein rakhte hain jo hamare bahut hi kareeb hota hai ya fir wo jise hum apna samjh lete hain, shayad itna apna ke uske aage kuchh aur nahi. Par ye hai kya Dosti ya Pyaar, samjhne mein hi waqt nikal jata hai. Main isme sirf ik aise dost ki feelings bata raha hu jiske liye uska dost bahut mayane rakhta hai par uske dost ke liye koi aur……… haan jise wo pyaar karta hai. Ye baatein sirf wo hi insaan samjh sakta hai jo dosti aur pyaar ke rishte ko samjh sakta hai. Jisko apne dost ki feelings ki bhi parwah hai. Mujhe ab tak apna pyaar to nahi mil paya par aise dost jarur mile hain jo sirf apne pyaar ke liye mujhe chhod ke chale gaye ya fir koi aisa hai jise maine chhod diya wo bhi apne pyaar ke liye, aisa wo sochta hai, par main use kuchh nahi keh sakta kyuki main bhi majboor hu, Dosti ki kuchh misunderstandings hi hamare rishte ko khatam kar gayi hain. Lekin shayad ab bahut der ho chuki hai aur ab……….ab kuchh nahi bach gaya hai. Lekin uski feelings kya hain mere liye wo main achhi trah samjh sakta hu. Kehte hain ke bhagwan sab ko ek jaise din dikhata hai shayad isliye aaj hum ek dusre ke paas hote huye bhi bahut dur hain. So friends please kabhi dost ko mat chhodo wo bhi apne pyaar ke liye. Main manta hu ki jab pyaar hota hai to dost ki jagah nahi rehti hamari zindagi mein par ye bhi sach hai ke dost hi dur rehkar bhi hamare sabse kreeb rehta hai.

I don’t understand ki agar koi ladka aur ladki dost hain to log unke relation ko sirf pyar ka naam hi kyu dete hain? Jab do ladke best friends ban sakte hain to ek ladka aur ladki kyu nahi? Kya unme kabhi dosti nahi ho sakti? Kya unki feelings ek dusre ke liye sirf achhi dosti tak nahi rehti.

I strictly believe ke ek ladka aur ek ladki ache nahi, balki bahut achhe friends ban sakte hain shayad do ladko se bhi ache. Bas sharat ye hoti hai k unko ek dusre par vishwas kitna hai. Jab tak unme vishwas ka dhaga kachha hai wo ek dusre ko samajh nahi payenge. Main manta hu k ek ladki ko kisi ladke par vishwas karne ke liye waqt chahiye to kya ek ladke ko bas milte hi vishwas kar lena chahiye? Kya use us ladki ko jan-ne ka mauka nahi milna chahiye? Kya use waqt nahi chahiye? Ladko par vishwas karna mushkil aur ladki par mushkil nahi, kyu, aisa kyu hota hai ?

Dosti jise shayad hum kabhi nahi samjh pate aur shayad bas kuch misunderstandings ki wajah se hi raste mein chhod jate hain, bina ye jane ke wo dusra insaan jiske liye hum bahut ehmiyat rakhte hain, uski feelings kya hai hamare liye, hume uski koi parwah nahi, kyuki shayad sach mein hume uski koi parwah nahi hoti. Ho sakta hai us waqt koi aur hamare kareeb ho jata hai, par ye bhi to galat hai kisi apne ke liye hum us insaan ki feelings ko hurt kare jiske liye hum bahut kuchh hain. Hum kyu bhul jate hain koi hai jo shayad bina kahe, bina kisi sawarth ke hamari care karta, humse pyaar krta hai lekin, hum usse anjaan rehte hain, ya shayad jaan bujh kar aisa karne lagte hain, sirf is liye, kyuki wo sirf hamara dost hai hamara pyaar nahi.

Hum aisa kyu karte hain kya us insaan ke kuchh sapne nahi hain hamare liye? Kya use hume apna pyaar dene ka koi haq nahi hai? Hum kyu chhod dete hain us insaan ko jo hum par vishwaas karta hai, kyu tod dete hain uske vishwaas ko? Kyu uski koi parwah nahi rehti, bas is liye ke wo sirf hamara dost hai hamara pyaar nahi.

Agar aisa hi karna hota hai to hum kyu use apni zindagi mein ek jagah dete hain, jise wo chhodta hai to use dukh hota hai, par hume……….. koi fark nahi padta. Arey agar aisa hi karna hota hai to hum use apni zindagi mein laate hi kyu hain? Kyu use ye sapne dikhate hain ke uske bina hum adhure hain? Kyu usko ye vishwaas dilate hain ke uske paas ek dost hai jise wo apne mann ki har baat keh sakta hai.?

Har insaan dosti ka majak uda jata hai. Kisi ko kisi ki feelings ka koi khayal nahi hai. Ek insaan jo hamare liye kuchh bhi kar sakta hai, kyu hum use hurt karte hain? aur ek taraf wo…………, chahe jitna bhi hurt ho par uf tak nahi karta, kyuki wo usi mein khush hai. Uski khushi to hamari khushi mein hoti hai. Aur hamari khushi shayad usko ye ehsaas dila ke ki ab teri jarurat nahi hai shayad ab mere paas wo insaan hai jiski mujhe talash thi. Aur dost ka kya hai wo to mil hi jate hain. Kya kisi dost ki feelings hamare liye koi mayane nahi rakh sakti. Aksar hum us insaan ko nazarandaz karte hain jiske liye hum khush nahi ho sakte par wo hamari har khushi mein shamil hota hai. Ho bhi kyu woe k dost hai hamara pyaar nahi.

Dosti ho ya pyaar, ye to bas ek aisa ehsaas hai jo hume sikhata hai ke hume kisi ko kya dena hai aur kaise dena hai. Hum kisi ko de hi kya sakte hain, bas thodi si care, pyaar, vishwaas aur respect jo shayad hume khud ko na mile to apne aap ko adhura sa lagta hai, kuchh kami si lagti hai. lekin agar ye dene mein bhi hum sochte reh jayenge to shayad hum kabhi kisi ko kuchh nahi de sakte.

Main manta hu ke hume hamesha aise do insaan milte hain jo hume khud se jyada pyaar karte hain aur hum sirf ek ko aur jo dusra hota hai wo hota hai hamra sabse achha dost jise shayad hum to bhula sakte hain par wo hame kabhi nahi bhula sakta Jab kabhi wo insaan jise hum pyaar karte hain hume ignore karta hai to hume bahut dukh hota hai par jab hum apne dost ko ignore karte hain to ye kyu nahi sochte ke wo kitna hurt ho raha hai? Bas isliye kyuki wo sirf hamara dost hai hamara pyaar nahi.

Kya humne kabhi dost ko samjha hai kya hai ye dost ? Hamare liye koi bhi insaan jo hume mil jata hai jise hum thode din mein jan-ne lagte hain wo hamara dost hai, par kya ye sach hai? Haan dost bnana to aasan hai par dosti nibhana its difficult coz kisi ko samjhna aur uska saath dena bahut mushkil hai. Aur baat sirf ek dost ki ho to fir to bahut hi mushkil hai kyuki wo sirf ek dost hai hamara pyar nahi.

Dost jo shayad hamari zindagi ke har pal ka dhyan humse jyada rakhta hai. Jise humse jyada hamare bare mein pata hota hai, jise humse jyada hamari fikar hoti hai, jise hamare aane se pehle hamare aane ka ehsaas hota hai, jo bina kahe hi hume samjh sakta hai, jise hamari har jarurat ka khayal humse jyada hota hai, jiski har dua mein bhi hamara hi naam hota hai, par hum kyu nahi samjhte uski feelings ko?bas isliye kyuki wo sirf hamara dost hai hamara pyar nahi.

Dost wohi hota hai jo hamesha har mushkil mein hamara sath deta hai aur shayad jab mushkil mein hote hain to hi hume yaad aata hai. I feel ke dost wo nahi jo hume galti karne se rokta hai, jise pata ho ke hum jo kar rahe hain wo galat hai, aur agar galati kar lete hain to hume kehta hai ke main kuchh nahi kar sakta tumne khud galati ki hai tum hi bhugto, par sacha dost to wo hai jo jante huye bhi ke aapne uske rokne par bhi galati ki hai, aapke galati karne ke baad bina kuchh kahe bas itna kehde ke “you don’t worry” main hu na. Koi bhi mushkil ho main tujhe nikal lunga, tu girne laga to sambhal lunga aur agar gir bhi gaya to tujhe sahara dunga. Chahe wo har pal hamare sath hai, har pal hume sambhalta hai par hume usse kya kyuki wo sirf hamara dost hai hamara pyar nahi.

Dost agar ladka hai aur agar wo kisi ladki ki care karta hai, agar har pal uske bare mein sochta hai to use pyaar kaha jata hai. Main puchhta hu ke agar wo pyaar karta bhi hai to kya galat hai. Agar wo ladki ki care karta bhi hai to usme kya burayi hai, hum log unhe galat kyu samjhte hai, arey log hi kya wo ladki khud bhi yahi sochti hai k shayad us ladke se dosti karke usne galati ki kyuki wo sirf uska dost hai uska pyaar nahi.

Main manta hu ke jise hum pyar karte hain usse hamari expectations bahut badh jati hain. Lekin agar ek ladka ek apni dost se kuchh expectations rakhtaS hai to usme galat hi kya hai par haan wo kabhi shayad use nahi keh payega coz use pata hai ke wo kisi aur se pyaar karti hai aur wo isi mein khush hai k wo ladki khush hai, par ye jaruri to nahi ke is ehsaas ko pyaar ka naam hi diya jaye, kya ye ehsaas kisi dost ke liye nahi ho sakta hai. Wo sirf is liye us ladki ke sath hota hai ke agar wo kahi galat bhi hai to wo use sambhal lega, chahe kuchh bhi ho, chahe har insaan use ek raaste pe aakar uska saath chhod jaye par wo hamesha use ye ehsaas dilane ke liye uske paas rehta hai ke main hamesha se tumhare saath hu, tumhare paas hu. Lekin wo ladki uske is ehsaas ko kabhi nahi samjh payegi kyuki wo sirf uska dost hai uska pyaar nahi.

Kyu hum apne dil mein ye baat bana kar rakhte hain ke jise hum pyaar karte hain wo hi hamare liye sab kuchh hai aur hamare dost sirf jab jarurat pade to hume chahiye. Jyadatar log bas aisa hi karte hain jab dost ki jarurat ho use yaad karo or baki ek insaan jise wo chahte hain wo to unke paas hai na, aur unhe kya chahiye, par kabhi ye socha ke us dost ko kaisa lagta hoga jab jarurat padne par hi hum use yaad karte hain, kya sirf jarurat ka naam hi to dosti nahi hai? Shayad hamari soch hi aisi hai ke dost to dost hai jab kabhi yaad karege aa hi jayega, usne kahan jana hai, hamare bina usne jana hi kahan hai, par agar wo dost hi aapse ruth kar chala jaye to …………………..???????? Shayad iska jawab hum khud apne aap se puchh sakte hain ke wo hume chhod kar gaya hi kyu, humne aisi kaun si galati ki jisse ruth kar wo humse dur chala gaya, kya humne uski kabhi parwah ki?, kya kabhi humne use puchha ke tu mujhse kya expect karta hai? Kya kabhi uske paas jakar puchha tujhe meri jarurat to nahi? Lekin kyu puchhe wo sirf dost hai hamara pyaar nahi.

Hume hamesha is baat ka intzaar rehta hai ke jis dost ko hum pyaar karte hai, jiski hum care karte hain, kabhi wo bhi hume pyaar dega, kabhi wo bhi hamare liye sochega, kabhi wo bhi hamari care karega. Lekin aksar ye sab ek sapna ban kar hi reh jata hai kyuki aisa bahut kam hota hai ya fir kabhi nahi hota is ka karan hai ke hum ye bhul jate hain ke hum sirf ek dost hain us insaan ka pyaar nahi jise shayad hum khud se bhi jyada mante hain.

Hum kabhi use jakar nahi kehte ke tujhe jo chahiye bol main dunga tujhe, kabhi wo toot bhi raha ho to use jakar apna sahara nahi nahi dete, kabhi uske girte aansuyo ko nahi rokte, kabhi uske sar par hath rakhkar nahi kehte ke teri har problem meri hai, kabhi ye nahi kehte ke mujhe teri dosti chahiye, kbhi usko thanx nahi kehte ke tere jaisa dost mujhe nahi mila, kabhi ye nahi kehte ke tere bina mera koi aur sahara nahi ban sakta, arey kahen bhi kyu yaar wo kaun sa hamara pyaar hai wo to sirf ek dost hai.

Kitne khudgarj hain hum log jo apne dost ki feelings ko nahi jaan sakte, ya fir yu kahe ke kabhi uske bare mein sochna hi nahi chahte, kyuki hum use ek jagah de chuke hain or us jagah pe pata nahi kitne aur log hain, aur wo jagah hai dost ki, pata nahi kitne hi aur dost hain kis kis ke bare mein soche aur is wajah se hum us khas insaan ko bhi nahi puchhte.lekin agar ye baat hamare pyaar ke liye ho to hum kisi ko bhi chhod sakte hain chahe wo koi bhi rishta ho hum tod sakte hain, bina kuchh soche samjhe, kya hum apne dost ke liye kabhi apne pyaar ko chhod sakte hain, …………………..??????? Nahi shayad kabhi nahi kyuki wo hamara pyaar hai hamara dost nahi. Aur dost ko to hum kabhi bhi chhod sakte hain.

Jise hum pyaar karte hain agar wo koi galati kare to hum uski galati ko dekhkar bhi andekha kar dete hain par agar koi chhoti si bhi galati hamara dost karde to………….? To use har pal us galati ka ehsaas dilate hain. Har pal use yaad dilate hain ke teri wajah se ye huya hai, bina ye jane ke us dost pe kya beet rahi hai, chahe wo galati usne hamari wajah se ki ho par fir bhi hum kabhi uska saath nahi denge, kabhi ye bhi nahi jan-na chahenge ke kahi use hamari jarurat to nahi hai? Kahi wo hamare bina akela to nahi ho jayega. Aakhir kyu soche wo kaun sa hamara pyar hai wo to sirf ek dost hai.

Hume kabhi is baat ka ehsaas nahi hota ke hamara dost bhi hume kuchh kehna chahta hai, humse kuchh sun-na chahta hai.Use kabhi itna bhi nahi puchhte ke “kaise ho” par chahe us insaan ko jise hum pyaar karte hain baar baar puchhte rahe. Din ho ya raat usse baat kare bina kuchh pal nahi guzar sakte par kya kabhi dost ko khud apne aap phone karke bhi puchhte hain ke kaise ho? Wo har subha se sham tak bas ye intzar karta hai ke shayad aaj hum khud use puchhenge par hamare paas uske liye waqt kahan hai, hamare paas agar waqt hai to sirf uske liye jise hum pyaar karte hain. Hum sara din uske saath baat kar sakte hain par apne dost ke liye do pal bhi nahi hote. Par hum uske sath baat kare bhi to kyu wo kaun sa hamara pyaar hai wo to dost hai.

Mere liye mere dost hamesha aise hote hain jaise hamare parents ke liye hum, hamesha unse pyaar kiya, unki care ki, unhe respect di, unki har galati mein unka saath diya, par kuchh dost hi aise mile jinke liye sahyad ye sab words pyaar, care, vishwaas, respect koi ehmiyat nahi rakhte the aur agar koi ehmiyat thi bhi to bas kisi aur ke liye jinhe wo sabse jyada pyaar karte the. Maine kabhi unse ye expect nahi kiya par hota to hamesha wahi hai na jo kabhi expect nahi kiya jata.

Dear Friends its 3:30 a.m. now so abhi tak ke liye itna hi , hope all you’ll like my feelings or I can say our feelings jo shayad hum us insaan se kabhi nahi keh sakte jise hum apna dost samjhte hain, jiski hume fikar hai par use hamari nahi……………anywayz ye dosti ka ehsaas kabhi khatam nahi ho sakta ye yuhi chalta rahega aur hamari feelings hamesha badhti hi hain par us dost ko kya, aakhir hum to uske liye sirf dost hain uska pyaar nahi.

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